What are ACEs?
ACEs stands for Adverse Childhood Experiences. These are difficult things that can happen when you're growing up. Some examples include:
- Your parents arguing a lot or separating
- Feeling unsafe or unloved at home
- Someone close to you having big health problems (in their body or their mind)
- Being treated unfairly, hurt, or shouted at too much
- Seeing or hearing scary things like violence or shouting
These experiences are not your fault, and you didn’t do anything to deserve them.
How Can They Affect You?
When tough things happen in childhood, they can leave behind feelings that are hard to understand. You might:
- Feel anxious, angry, or really sad
- Find it hard to sleep or concentrate
- Get poorly more often
- Feel like you can’t trust people
- Blame yourself for things that aren't your fault
These are all normal reactions to difficult experiences.
Can Things Get Better?
Yes. Even if life has been really hard, things can improve. Talking about what’s going on and getting support makes a big difference.
You might find it helpful to:
- Talk to a trusted adult (like a teacher, family member, or youth worker)
- Use creative outlets like drawing, writing, or music to express yourself
- Take care of your body with rest, food, and movement
- Ask for help when you’re struggling – that’s brave, not weak
You are not broken. You are not to blame. You are doing the best you can – and that’s more than enough.
If you need someone to talk to:
- 📞 Childline (UK) – Call 0800 1111 or visit childline.org.uk
- 💬 Speak to a trusted adult in school or at home
